Thoughts on virginity

Lets face it, virginity is overrated for so many reasons. Its sold by fundamentalist fuckwits as a special gift to be given to the person you love, and so reduced to the level of a small stuffed toy (probably holding a big heart)… a well meant gift, but pretty disappointing when given.

The basic problem with sex is that we are born with an innate desire to do it, but our behavioural programming doesn’t really include much in the way of technique. Having shared the confidence of a few of my (female) friends, I’ve learned, albeit with a relatively small sample number that a lot of women have by the time they reached their mid-twenties either never had an orgasm, or never been given one by a man (I’m assuming lesbians are a good deal better at working this out).

So here’s an idea for a social convention in our imaginary new world: The idea is that virginity (and the loss thereof) is taken out of the hands of amateurs. Instead, at whatever age society feels appropriate, a professional is employed to sleep with a woman. During this rite of passage, the role of the professional is to demonstrate just how good and varied sex can be. The point being that after this one time event, there is firstly no longer a taboo about sex, or any angst about loosing one’s virginity. Secondly the woman would end up having a reasonably idea of what to expect from foreplay and sex (if done correctly), so providing a reference for future sexual encounters. If they don’t live up to this, then she knows that it should be better and perhaps can suggest how. Failing this then she, should she wish can look for another partner.

At the same time, a similar rite should take place for men, again guided by a professional, who would ensure that he leans some basic techniques. This idea would be that even if he can’t learn to give a woman an orgasm during sex, he should at least have a reasonably idea of how to achieve this using his hands or mouth.

The whole idea will probably end up being totally mis-interpreted and used as the basis for some sort of sex cult, but maybe there would be a way of avoiding this. In practice all I’m suggesting is a more practical form of sex therapy.

It would be nice to think that the whole process would help to cure the old fashioned/puritanical (male) obsession with women being virgins. Firstly by ensuring that actually no one is a virgin, and secondly introducing the idea that it might actually be more fun sleeping with someone who has at least some idea of what they are doing. It may also force a general raising of the standard of sex….

Christian fundamentalist burn me at the stake already….